We are constantly barraged with messages about losing weight and dieting, and the message is clear- you aren’t good enough as you are.
I’m not good enough as I am, they tell me through commercials, magazines, and billboards. Even people I know tell me I’m not good enough as I am every time they say, “you look great, have you lost weight?”
Of course I want to be healthy, and yes I understand that maintaining a healthy weight is essential to physical health, but this social obsession with weight is damaging to mental, emotional, and spiritual health.
This social obsession with weight is damaging to mental, emotional, and spiritual health.
Treating one symptom of an unhealthy lifestyle doesn’t create health and as long as my efforts to be healthy are so limited, any health improvements I make will not last.
I have learned time and time again that any personal improvement comes first from self-love and self-acceptance. Yes, I am imperfect and guess what- I always will be!
Personal improvement is a beautiful, inspiring, and abundant path to follow and at the core of that improvement is love, not hate. If I hate part of myself and desperately want it change then I cannot improve. If I feel I am not whole or amazing or lovable as I am then I cannot improve.
The social message that I must look a certain way to be accepted, admired, and loved is so powerful that I struggle to be happy with who I am today.
I have made a decision that I will NOT lose weight, or even try, without enthusiastically loving and accepting my body just as it is today.
It’s not fat-acceptance, it’s self acceptance. It’s not fat-approving, it’s self approving. It’s not fat-loving, it’s self loving.
Do you accept, approve, and love yourself, just as you are?
This is me, and I am working on accepting, approving, and loving myself just as I am.
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